It’s amazing what having a child does to your perspective. The entire time I was pregnant with our first child, I remember everyone telling me how much having a child changes everything. I would always think, “Of course it changes everything. I’m a smart enough person to know I’ll sleep less, order take-out more, and empathize with other parents on an airplane when they fly with their young children.” Some folks tried to convince me that more things change than just sleep patterns, especially when our child enters school. Again, I thought, “These people don’t know anything about me. Don’t they know my husband and I are educators? Don’t they know I grew up with two parents as educators? Puh-lease people, give me a break!”
Then I woke up one day and found myself with a child entering Kindergarten.
All of a sudden those parent letters started coming addressed to ME. The handbook signature form had to be signed by ME. Lunch money had to be paid by ME. I’m now officially a parent of a school-aged child. (Sigh) Where did my life go?
I have a confession: Elementary Education is foreign to me. Sure, I work in at the district level in the areas of Curriculum & Instruction, but I have a very smart colleague who deals with everything in the elementary buildings. My responsibility rests in our secondary schools. My self-report is this: I’ve been so busy in my own secondary world I haven’t always paid the best attention to conversations in my office area regarding elementary education. My perspective has now changed. Consider me an elementary education sponge.
One thing that I believe will never change is my belief in how to interact with others when you are in a leadership capacity (principal or teacher). Now that I’m a parent of a Kindergartner, this means even more to me. I value communication with my child’s teacher. I am thankful when I get feedback on her progress in school. I know when I have a concern, my child’s teacher is going to help me solve the problem.
One thing I wasn’t ready for quite yet was being on the other side of the desk. Those of you who are parents of children who are or who have been in elementary school know the feeling: sitting in a child-sized chair across a child-sized table from your child’s teacher listening to the teacher tell you how your child is progressing and where your child has challenges. For so long I’ve been in the teacher chair (a much larger one at the secondary level mind you). It didn’t ever occur to me until now how powerful those parent-teacher conversations can be.
Now I’m reflecting on all of those conferences I had with parents I scan my brain trying to remember if I made them feel like they were an integral part of their child’s learning. Did I address their concerns clearly? Did I give them enough feedback on their child’s progress in my class? Was I able to speak to what their child knew?
Now that I’m on the other side of the desk, I know how valuable that information can be.
Photos:
Tulipanes (tulips) – zoom it! by PCharlon on Flickr
Zona de Ninos by JavierPsilocybin on Flickr
Lined up! by MikeWebkist on Flickr
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